MAN WAS BORN FREE, YET EVERYWHERE HE IS IN CHAINS
Jean-Jacques Rousseau
The Invasion of the Digital Babysitter
It Was a Dark and Stormy Digital Babysitter Night Two rainy nights ago, I was treated to an interesting “incident” at a fancy restaurant in town. Even on a rainy Friday night diners entered the restaurant in droves. Inside the restaurant, I was seated... read more
The Day Kobe Bryant Walked Away From The Game
Two decades ago, the world witnessed a scrawny kid from Lower Merion High School, Philadelphia said in a cocky tone, “I’ve decided to skip college and take my talent to the NBA”. That high school kid, Kobe Bryant, is now 37 years of age and about to play his final... read more
The Presence of Mind: Lessons from the Exploding Kitchen
Yesterday, I botch my cooking and burned the kitchen down. Well, I did botch my cooking but the kitchen didn’t burn down. I only wished it did because botch cooking is something I cannot accept. It only means one thing for me. I didn’t have the... read more
The Zen of No Mind (or How to Live Happily in the Present)
I once blew an all expense paid for overseas vacation. Because while physically on vacation, I was worried about my work and a thousand other things. My mind was jammed. Back then, I knew nothing about the Zen of No Mind. Do you live in the present or ruminate... read more
The 0.1 Second that Determines Your First Impression and Likeability
It only takes 0.1 seconds to create a first impression. That’s right. 0.1 seconds That means making the first impression is almost instantaneous. Communication is both verbal and non-verbal. Oftentimes non-verbal communication (body language,... read more
Ronald Reagan and the Lost Art of Letter Writing
Have you ever read a letter that tug at your heart strings? And move you to tears? A letter written by President Ronald Reagan to his wife on their first Christmas together in the White House have that effect . . . Today, at the funeral service for former First... read more
What a Farm Horse Taught Me about Being Mindful
I have discovered that having lingering thoughts during martial arts practices is a big no-no. Because my thoughts are cut short when my face meets my opponent’s fist. That was my first lesson in mindfulness. Being mindful means I have the opportunity to parry... read more
How Significant Emotional Events Can Empower You
“Painful as it may be, a Significant Emotional Event can be the catalyst for choosing a direction that serves us more effectively. Look for the learning.” ~ Louisa May Alcott significant emotional events Have you ever experienced a significant... read more
Sliding Doors – When Life’s Insignificant Choices Lead to Significant Outcomes
Have you ever thought about the choices you made as you go about your daily routine? Especially the seemingly insignificant ones? A minor seemingly insignificant decision in your life may create a major significant impact in your life. Think about that.... read more
An Anatomy of a Serial Victim
This is a story about Harriet. Harriet is a forty-something administrative manager before her company downsized and put her out of work. Harriet has a victim mentality. I am calling her a serial victim because for years, she has conveniently played the... read more
What Makes Men More Attractive to Women
When you meet someone for the first time, your mind will pick up non-verbal signals almost immediately. The person you are meeting will do the same. Most of potential romantic partnerships are assessed in these “get-to-know-you” conversations. Dispositional... read more
How to Enjoy a Good Night’s Sleep Without Counting Sheep
You toss and turn, adjust your pillow and try to find that sweet spot on your bed. Yet, after a good 10 minutes, you are still wide awake and staring at the ceiling fan. Your good night’s sleep has eluded you. You glanced at the clock and realized that... read more
Lessons from the Myth of Sisyphus
As Greek mythology have it, King Sisyphus of Ephyra (the modern day Corinth) was cursed to perform the menial task of rolling a huge rock up a steep hill that will only ALMOST reach the top only to roll downhill so that Sisyphus have to push it uphill again for all of... read more
8 Conversational Strategies to Create Intense Attraction with Women
You have mustered the courage to introduce yourself to an attractive woman or have successfully asked her out on a date. Now, everything hinges on your conversational prowess. Here are 8 proven conversational strategies to help you to create intense attraction with... read more
Color Your Blues Away with Adult Coloring Books
I recently traded my television set for a set of color pencils and adult coloring books. All in the desperate hope to color my blues away . . . Adult coloring books have been flooding bookstores of late and 9 of the top 20 bestsellers on amazon.com are adult... read more
10 Strategies for Men To Create a Lasting Relationship
You had gotten past the courtship stage of a relationship. However, relationships rarely work on cruise control. To achieve a lasting relationship, you must constantly work at it lest relationship atrophy sets in. Creating a lasting relationship goes beyond... read more
The Phobia List
The Phobia List A to Z In my practice, I have help alleviate fears and worked clients who have developed a phobia. Phobias usually begin as an anxiety disorder in children or teens and continue into adulthood. It is usually a strong irrational fear of something that... read more
The Problem with New Year Resolutions
What is the link between new year resolutions and epitaphs? Are epitaphs commemorative inscriptions to reflect the life, legacy or the personality of the faithful departed or a message left by the living to their dead? The Merriam-Webster Dictionary... read moreTHIS BLOG claims no credit for any images posted on this site unless otherwise noted. Images on this blog are copyright to its respectful owners. If there is an image appearing on this blog that belongs to you and do not wish for it appear on this site, please E-mail with a link to said image and it will be promptly removed.
