How Significant Emotional Events Can Empower You

How Significant Emotional Events Can Empower You

“Painful as it may be, a Significant Emotional Event can be the catalyst for choosing a direction that serves us more effectively. Look for the learning.” ~ Louisa May Alcott significant emotional events

 

Have you ever experienced a significant emotional event that impact your life? The kind that brings with it emotional and psychological reactions?

 

Significant Emotional Events (SEE) are events with the capacity to change your perspective in life, your value system and your view of the world.

 

Sociologist Morris Massey has defined the concept of SEE as an experience that is so “mentally arresting” that it becomes a catalyst for you to consider, examine, and possibly change your initial values or value system.

 

 

Significant Emotional Events

No matter what age, gender or race, SEEs appears randomly in everybody’s life. You will be unaware as it jolts you out of your slumber and “awakens” your inner giant. It pushes you out of your comfort zone.  Its’ impact is so significant that it would spur you to contemplate life and examine your personal values. 

 

If you are unaware, a Significant Emotional Event can hit you like a ton of bricks. As Massey puts it, “the common denominator of significant emotional events is a challenge and a disruption to our present behavior patterns and beliefs”

 

Positive SEEs are marriage, the birth of a child or a job promotion. The traumatic and negative ones come in a form of a separation, critical illness, job layoff or death.

 

SEEs are unavoidable and it hits you when you least expect it. You may be driven to another level of success, motivation and happiness by positive Significant Emotional Events. But what if you are hit with negative SEEs? 

 

 

The Perils of Negative Significant Emotional Events

The resulting emotions which follows SEEs can be trapped in our bodies. These trapped emotions which remain in our memories may potentially be the cause of many mental and physical dis-eases.

 

Negative SEEs may have occurred during childhood. They may potentially be the source of mental, emotional and physical disharmony in the body. Besides dis-eases, negative emotions trapped in your body can be crippling and slows progress in many areas of your life.

 

Let’s suppose one of the Significant Emotional Event in your life was a recent divorce. Because of the trapped emotions created by the SEE, each subsequent relationship ends the exact same way. You may not even recall the negative emotions, but at a certain point these emotions may resurface and put an end to the relationship.

 

You may not be aware of it, but the negative emotions of hurt and disappointment trapped in your body may have prevented you from enjoying a normal healthy relationship.

 

 

How Significant Emotional Events Can Empower You

The trapped emotions caused by negative SEEs may have embedded memories of the event in your subconscious mind. In order for you to avoid another cycle of “relationships ending badly”, it is essential to release these trapped emotions from your body.

 

Your memories may have strong indelible imprints of emotions such as shock, surprise, fear or anger after the negative SEEs. In your subconscious mind, memories are permanently stored in the form of images, sounds, smells, tastes, words and feelings.

 

 

You can harness these memories into something positive in your life by converting Significant Emotional Events into positive emotions. 

 

 

5 Steps to Transform Significant Emotional Events into Empowering Memories

  1.  Close your eyes and imagine a straight horizontal line. This line represents your life. All the way to the left of the line is your past and all the way to the right represents your future. As you examine this line, allow yourself to drift back to a time in your life when these SEEs occurred. How old were you and how did you looked back then? What can you see in the past?

 

  1.  Picture an image of yourself in the past. This image of you in the past is about to go through the SEE. The image of you in the past have no awareness of the event but the “you” now have the wisdom, knowledge and experience to change your past experience.

 

  1.  Imagine now that you are sharing this experience with the “you” in the past. How do you advice your “younger self” on handling these emotions? What knowledge or resources can you share with your younger self so that he or she can make an entirely different decision and create a new “meaning” to that SEE?

 

  1.  Once you have done that, guide the “you” in the past and help him or her go through the experience with the knowledge, skill and wisdom you now possess. Notice how the “you” in the past reacts to the new experience as you bring him or her forward in time. As you change the whole “meaning” of the past experience, look into the future. Take note of your feelings now.

 

  1.  Say “thank you” to the “you” in the past for his or her courage and for being willing to go through this experience with you. Then, step back into the present and open your eyes. Take a few moments to enjoy the feeling of being refreshed and renewed.

 

Word of Caution
You may experience intense emotions during this exercise. Therefore, it is highly recommended that you do this with an experienced therapist.

 

You can seek the help of a therapist to “convert” these into memories that empowers you. Practitioners of NeuroLinguistic Programing (NLP), Time Line Therapy and Hypnotherapy can help you work on your negative Significant Emotional Events.

 

Your subconscious mind is given a new language and suggestions for change during therapy session. Your memories are given new and positive “meaning”. In short, and you will be able to “re-experience” these SEEs in a positive and empowering way.

An Anatomy of a Serial Victim

An Anatomy of a Serial Victim

This is a story about Harriet.

 

Harriet is a forty-something administrative manager before her company downsized and put her out of work. Harriet has a victim mentality.

 

I am calling her a serial victim because for years, she has conveniently played the role of a victim.

 

Victim Mentality Defined

In personality psychology, a person with a victim mentality has an external locus of control. A concept developed by Julian B. Rotter in 1954, locus of control is the extent of control in which an individual believe he or she possesses.

 

A person with an external locus of control blame external forces (people, situation, events) for his or her “misfortunes”. An individual with an internal locus of control believe that he or she is in control and can influence events and their outcomes.

 

People with victim mentality find that they are unable to cope with difficult or challenging situations because he or she had developed a habitual thought process which harbor feelings of powerlessness.

 

 

The “Eternal” Victim

Harriet’s proclivity towards victimhood has been ingrained in her since childhood. Her own limiting beliefs developed as a child made her belief that good luck was not part of her DNA.

 

At any one time, there will be (at least) one antagonist in her life. It could be someone within her family, workplace or social circle. She believes that all her antagonists are there to criticize, judge and put her down. So far, she had never fail to create an antagonist in her life. Otherwise, who can she blame for her misfortunes and string of bad lucks?

 

During her days as an administrative manager, Harriet often complained about being treated unfairly though on many occasions evidence had proved that she was either partially or completely responsible for what had transpired.

 

She thrives being the center of attention as it provides a temporary relief to her feelings of insecurity and inadequacy. However, it doesn’t help her overcome the four “lows” in her life – low self-esteem, low self-confidence, low self-love and low self-worth.

 

After being laid off from work, Harriet wallowed in self-pity. She spent endless hours on the phone with her sister who had to endure her complains, problem-focused issues and (often exaggerated) sob stories.

 

 

A Serial Victim’s Passive-Aggressive Behavior

Harriet tend to display a passive-aggressive stance in her interaction with others. A person of a passive-aggressive nature is subtle, indirect and non-confrontational. Part of their game plan is laying blame and planting guilt trips.

 

In the passive-aggressive victim mentality world like Harriet’s, it is never the victim’s fault. Using emotional blackmail, she makes people around her feel sorry for her. She also play on others’ guilt by making others believe that they are responsible for her plight and unhappiness.

 

One reason Harriet is still stuck in a victim mode is a perpetuating factor known as secondary gain. A psychological motivator which provides “benefits” of being a victim, her secondary gain comes in the form of offers of help, sympathy, and being the center of attention.

 

 

Are You Suffering From Victim Mentality?

If you identify with Harriet and feel that victim mentality exists in you, all is not lost. Victim mentality is a state of mind and not a death sentence. Here are some positive steps you can take to assume control of your life:

 

  1.     CHANGE YOUR MINDSET

Being able to acknowledge that you are victim by choice is the first step to making a positive change. Understand that having a victim mentality is a thing of the past but need not be part of your future.

 

  1.     TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR ALL YOUR ACTIONS

The ability to take personal responsibility empowers you to make great progressive strides in your life. Choose to respond instead of react. You may not be able to control what happens to you in life, but you definitely can control the way you respond to them.

 

  1.     CULTIVATE AN ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE

Instead of focusing on what is wrong with your life, learn to find joy in your life. Identify things you can be grateful for. You can begin with something as simple as being thankful for a sunny weather. Create a “gratitude journal” and start documenting things, events or people you can be grateful for.

 

  1.    FORGIVE YOURSELF, FORGIVE OTHERS

Releasing the pain and anger through forgiveness is an essential step towards healing. Forgive those who have harmed or wronged you in the past because holding on to the anger will not alter the past nor change the person who have wronged you. Your ego may keep you from being forgiving but bear in mind that forgiveness releases the “antagonists” in your life from having a hold on you and prevents them from tormenting you emotionally.

    The character in this article is purely a work of fiction. Any uncanny resemblance to real people or events is purely coincidental.

How to Enjoy a Good Night’s Sleep Without Counting Sheep

How to Enjoy a Good Night’s Sleep Without Counting Sheep

You toss and turn, adjust your pillow and try to find that sweet spot on your bed. Yet, after a good 10 minutes, you are still wide awake and staring at the ceiling fan. Your good night’s sleep has eluded you.

 


You glanced at the clock and realized that its 3 a.m. and in 4 hours, you need to be up, dressed, eat and commute to the office for a very important presentation. In a panicked frenzy, you go to the kitchen and ingest a glass of Jack Daniels . . .

 

At the rate things are going, you may end up an alcoholic or sedative junkie just to get a good night’s sleep. Well, if there’s any consolation, you are not alone as 40 million Americans suffer from some form of chronic sleep disorder.

 

 

What happened to your good night’s sleep?

Not getting a good night’s sleep will affect your cognitive performance and you may experience memory loss, inattentiveness and easily agitated. In the long term, an insomniac is heading towards the path to anxiety and depression.

 

If you are sleep deprived, your day to day function could be affected. You may experience difficulty in making the right decisions, feel drowsy throughout the day and drive like a drunk driver. You may also develop cravings for foods with high sugar and carbohydrate.

 

 

What is depriving you of a good night’s sleep?

Let’s analyze the nature of your sleep deprivation and determine which category of insomnia you are suffering from.

 

Transient Insomnia lasts from a few days to a week. The usual suspects of transient insomnia are medication, caffeine and stress. Changes in your physical environment (excessive noise, light, and change in temperature) is also a factor. Also known as short-term insomnia, transient insomnia may be resolved once you adapt or no longer subject to the cause.

 

 

5 Steps to a good night’s sleep

Before resorting to sedatives, Jack Daniels or counting sheep, try these:

 

1.   Getting your bedroom ready for a good night’s rest. 

Create a calm and soothing environment for sleeping by adjusting the room lighting and temperature to your preferred setting. Keep all electronic devices with screens out of your bedroom. Blue light from TV screens, laptop and mobile phones can be disruptive to your sleep.

 

2.  Your bed is for sleeping only.

Your subconscious mind must  accept that the bed is only for sleeping (activities related to intimacy is the only exception to this rule).

Once your bed is associated with a good night’s sleep, you will sleep soundly when your head touches the pillow. Avoid snacks, TV and activities that arouses your mind (like preparing for morning meeting at work).

 

3.  Establish a pre-sleep routine.

You should start unwinding and preparing your mind for rest an hour before bedtime. You may already had an active day at work and your mind is swirling with excitement. Prior to your bedtime, try calming music, relaxation exercise or stretching. If you want to watch TV, make sure it is something relaxing. News is NOT something relaxing.

 

4.  Refrain from any form of stimulant 4 hours prior to bedtime.

Yes, this includes caffeine, nicotine and alcohol. Although alcohol have the effects of making you tipsy and maybe even sleepy, its effects wear off after a few hours and then it begins to act as a stimulant.

 

5.  Go to bed ONLY when you feel sleepy.

Just because you missed a few hours of sleep a night ago, don’t try to make up for it by going to bed early. If you are struggling to fall asleep, get up and go to another room and do something instead. DO something relaxing until you feel tired. Then return to your room and go to sleep.

 

 

If you have trouble sleeping three nights a week for a period of three months or more, you are suffering from chronic insomnia. If that’s the case, take two pills and call me in the morning . . . 🙂

Color Your Blues Away with Adult Coloring Books

Color Your Blues Away with Adult Coloring Books

I recently traded my television set for a set of color pencils and adult coloring books. All in the desperate hope to color my blues away . . .

 

Adult coloring books have been flooding bookstores of late and 9 of the top 20 bestsellers on amazon.com are adult coloring books. Two of the biggest bestsellers,Secret Garden and Enchanted Forest have sold a combined 13.5 million copies in 50 countries.

 

Words like “stress-relieving”, “calming” and “art therapy” on the cover of these books caught my attention.

 

My inclination to experiment with new therapeutic methods prompted me to get a copy of a coloring book. I colored for an hour to get a notion of what neurological response I will get from these coloring books. After which, I began to ponder what mental health experts think about these books.

 

What the Experts Say About Adult Coloring Books

1. Art Therapists
According to Cathy Malchiodi, the act of creating art enhances the quality of life, reduces stress, improves cognitive abilities and increases attention span.

 

However, as a leading expert in art therapy, Cathy does not condone adult coloring books as a form of therapy. She argued that, “people are adamant that coloring books are a path to mindfulness, meditation and some kind of psychological nirvana. I find that many of the loudest proponents are actually those that create the coloring books.”

 

According to her “the motion of crayon or pencil moving back and forth within pre-made boundaries is perceived as a form of containment, mastery and mind-numbing escape from the here-and-now.”

 

Donna Betts, the President of the Board of the American Art Therapy Association and a proponent of “art making as a form of therapy” affirms that she would not consider using adult coloring books in her therapy sessions.

 

Drena Fagen, an art therapist from New York University’s Steinhardt School, had tried using these books in her therapy sessions. She made a clear distinction:

“I don’t consider the coloring books as art therapy. I consider the coloring books therapeutic, which is not the same thing.”


neuroscientists

2. Neuroscientists
Dr. Stan Rodski, a neuroscientist in brain research and peak performance has his own line of “anti-stress” coloring books. He claimed that while coloring, the brain “focuses on the moment” and the mind shift away from distracting thoughts.

 

Jordan Gaines Lewis, science writer and Ph.D. student at Penn State College of Medicine, theorized that coloring gives a “refreshing sense of control”. After a hectic day, it allows us to make small “inconsequential decisions”.

 

Dr. Joel Pearson, an Australian brain scientist, posits that the act of coloring takes focus away from anxiety-related mental images. According to him, the experience of coloring is like playing Tetris, which has proven to help people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

 

 

3. Psychologists
Ben Michaelis, a clinical psychologist and the author of Your Next Big Thing: Ten Small Steps to Get Moving and Get Happy, gives us with a Jungian view on coloring:

“Carl Jung used to try to get his patients to color mandalas as a way of getting them to focus on letting go of the subconscious mind. Now we know it has a lot of other stress busting qualities as well.”

 

Psychologist Gloria Martinez Ayala explained that while focusing on the act of coloring, the stress-controlling part of our brain takes a well needed rest.

 

Shannon Bennett, New York’s Weill Cornell Medical College assistant professor of psychology doesn’t resonate with adult coloring books. She states that “it’s not something that would be a go-to for me”.

hypnotherapist

4. Hypnotherapists
From the point of view of a hypnotherapist, I endorse Carl Jung’s suggestion of coloring mandalas. However, I will not consider an adult coloring book as an alternative form of therapy. 

 

The act of coloring a complicated pattern engages the brain in a repetitive and mundane act and have the Ericksonian effects of putting the mind in a trance-like state. While coloring, you “lose yourself” in the art itself and your mind suspends all judgment and unwanted thoughts. Thus, the hypnotic-like effect spurred by the act of coloring may put the mind in a relaxed state.

 

 

Adult coloring books may aid in the relieve of stress but it should not be considered as a form of therapy. Paraphrasing the words of Marygrace Berberian, a certified art therapist and Clinical Assistant Professor for the Graduate Art Therapy Program at NYU:

 

“Coloring itself cannot be called [art] therapy because [art] therapy relies on the relationship between the client and the therapist”.

The Phobia List

The Phobia List

The Phobia List A to Z

In my practice, I have help alleviate fears and worked clients who have developed a phobia. Phobias usually begin as an anxiety disorder in children or teens and continue into adulthood. It is usually a strong irrational fear of something that poses no real or imminent danger.

 

The word phobia originated from the Greek word “phobos” which means fear.

 

If you are a trivia buff or just plain curious about the types of phobias that are “out there”, here’s a list of phobias (courtesy of phobialist.com) from A to Z. If you are among those suffering from a phobia (or two), find comfort in the fact that you are not alone. 

 

It’s a mighty long list. Please bear with me. 

 

A
Ablutophobia- Fear of washing or bathing.
Acarophobia- Fear of itching or of the insects that cause itching.
Acerophobia- Fear of sourness.
Achluophobia- Fear of darkness.
Acousticophobia- Fear of noise.
Acrophobia- Fear of heights.
Aerophobia- Fear of drafts, air swallowing, or airbourne noxious substances.
Aeroacrophobia- Fear of open high places.
Aeronausiphobia- Fear of vomiting secondary to airsickness.
Agateophobia- Fear of insanity.
Agliophobia- Fear of pain.
Agoraphobia- Fear of open spaces or of being in crowded, public places like markets. Fear of leaving a safe place.
Agraphobia- Fear of sexual abuse.
Agrizoophobia- Fear of wild animals.
Agyrophobia- Fear of streets or crossing the street.
Aichmophobia- Fear of needles or pointed objects.
Ailurophobia- Fear of cats.
Albuminurophobia- Fear of kidney disease.
Alektorophobia- Fear of chickens.
Algophobia- Fear of pain.
Alliumphobia- Fear of garlic.
Allodoxaphobia- Fear of opinions.
Altophobia- Fear of heights.
Amathophobia- Fear of dust.
Amaxophobia- Fear of riding in a car.
Ambulophobia- Fear of walking.
Amnesiphobia- Fear of amnesia.
Amychophobia- Fear of scratches or being scratched.
Anablephobia- Fear of looking up.
Ancraophobia- Fear of wind. (Anemophobia)
Androphobia- Fear of men.
Anemophobia- Fear of air drafts or wind.(Ancraophobia)
Anginophobia- Fear of angina, choking or narrowness.
Anglophobia- Fear of England or English culture, etc.
Angrophobia – Fear of anger or of becoming angry.
Ankylophobia- Fear of immobility of a joint.
Anthrophobia or Anthophobia- Fear of flowers.
Anthropophobia- Fear of people or society.
Antlophobia- Fear of floods.
Anuptaphobia- Fear of staying single.
Apeirophobia- Fear of infinity.
Aphenphosmphobia- Fear of being touched. (Haphephobia)
Apiphobia- Fear of bees.
Apotemnophobia- Fear of persons with amputations.
Arachibutyrophobia- Fear of peanut butter sticking to the roof of the mouth.
Arachnephobia or Arachnophobia- Fear of spiders.
Arithmophobia- Fear of numbers.
Arrhenphobia- Fear of men.
Arsonphobia- Fear of fire.
Asthenophobia- Fear of fainting or weakness.
Astraphobia or Astrapophobia- Fear of thunder and lightning.(Ceraunophobia, Keraunophobia)
Astrophobia- Fear of stars or celestial space.
Asymmetriphobia- Fear of asymmetrical things.
Ataxiophobia- Fear of ataxia. (muscular incoordination)
Ataxophobia- Fear of disorder or untidiness.
Atelophobia- Fear of imperfection.
Atephobia- Fear of ruin or ruins.
Athazagoraphobia- Fear of being forgotton or ignored or forgetting.
Atomosophobia- Fear of atomic explosions.
Atychiphobia- Fear of failure.
Aulophobia- Fear of flutes.
Aurophobia- Fear of gold.
Auroraphobia- Fear of Northern lights.
Autodysomophobia- Fear of one that has a vile odor.
Automatonophobia- Fear of ventriloquist’s dummies, animatronic creatures, wax statues – anything that falsly represents a sentient being.
Automysophobia- Fear of being dirty.
Autophobia- Fear of being alone or of oneself.
Aviophobia or Aviatophobia- Fear of flying.

B
Bacillophobia- Fear of microbes.
Bacteriophobia- Fear of bacteria.
Ballistophobia- Fear of missiles or bullets.
Bolshephobia- Fear of Bolsheviks.
Barophobia- Fear of gravity.
Basophobia or Basiphobia- Inability to stand. Fear of walking or falling.
Bathmophobia- Fear of stairs or steep slopes.
Bathophobia- Fear of depth.
Batophobia- Fear of heights or being close to high buildings.
Batrachophobia- Fear of amphibians, such as frogs, newts, salamanders, etc.
Belonephobia- Fear of pins and needles. (Aichmophobia)
Bibliophobia- Fear of books.
Blennophobia- Fear of slime.
Bogyphobia- Fear of bogeys or the bogeyman.
Botanophobia- Fear of plants.
Bromidrosiphobia or Bromidrophobia- Fear of body smells.
Brontophobia- Fear of thunder and lightning.
Bufonophobia- Fear of toads.

C
Cacophobia- Fear of ugliness.
Cainophobia or Cainotophobia- Fear of newness, novelty.
Caligynephobia- Fear of beautiful women.
Cancerophobia or Carcinophobia- Fear of cancer.
Cardiophobia- Fear of the heart.
Carnophobia- Fear of meat.
Catagelophobia- Fear of being ridiculed.
Catapedaphobia- Fear of jumping from high and low places.
Cathisophobia- Fear of sitting.
Catoptrophobia- Fear of mirrors.
Cenophobia or Centophobia- Fear of new things or ideas.
Ceraunophobia or Keraunophobia- Fear of thunder and lightning.(Astraphobia, Astrapophobia)
Chaetophobia- Fear of hair.
Cheimaphobia or Cheimatophobia- Fear of cold.(Frigophobia, Psychophobia)
Chemophobia- Fear of chemicals or working with chemicals.
Cherophobia- Fear of gaiety.
Chionophobia- Fear of snow.
Chiraptophobia- Fear of being touched.
Chirophobia- Fear of hands.
Chiroptophobia- Fear of bats.
Cholerophobia- Fear of anger or the fear of cholera.
Chorophobia- Fear of dancing.
Chrometophobia or Chrematophobia- Fear of money.
Chromophobia or Chromatophobia- Fear of colors.
Chronophobia- Fear of time.
Chronomentrophobia- Fear of clocks.
Cibophobia- Fear of food.(Sitophobia, Sitiophobia)
Claustrophobia- Fear of confined spaces.
Cleithrophobia or Cleisiophobia- Fear of being locked in an enclosed place.
Cleptophobia- Fear of stealing.
Climacophobia- Fear of stairs, climbing, or of falling downstairs.
Clinophobia- Fear of going to bed.
Clithrophobia or Cleithrophobia- Fear of being enclosed.
Cnidophobia- Fear of stings.
Cometophobia- Fear of comets.
Coimetrophobia- Fear of cemeteries.
Coitophobia- Fear of coitus.
Contreltophobia- Fear of sexual abuse.
Coprastasophobia- Fear of constipation.
Coprophobia- Fear of feces.
Consecotaleophobia- Fear of chopsticks.
Coulrophobia- Fear of clowns.
Counterphobia- The preference by a phobic for fearful situations.
Cremnophobia- Fear of precipices.
Cryophobia- Fear of extreme cold, ice or frost.
Crystallophobia- Fear of crystals or glass.
Cyberphobia- Fear of computers or working on a computer.
Cyclophobia- Fear of bicycles.
Cymophobia or Kymophobia- Fear of waves or wave like motions.
Cynophobia- Fear of dogs or rabies.
Cypridophobia or Cypriphobia or Cyprianophobia or Cyprinophobia – Fear of prostitutes or venereal disease.

D
Decidophobia- Fear of making decisions.
Defecaloesiophobia- Fear of painful bowels movements.
Deipnophobia- Fear of dining or dinner conversations.
Dementophobia- Fear of insanity.
Demonophobia or Daemonophobia- Fear of demons.
Demophobia- Fear of crowds. (Agoraphobia)
Dendrophobia- Fear of trees.
Dentophobia- Fear of dentists.
Dermatophobia- Fear of skin lesions.
Dermatosiophobia or Dermatophobia or Dermatopathophobia- Fear of skin disease.
Dextrophobia- Fear of objects at the right side of the body.
Diabetophobia- Fear of diabetes.
Didaskaleinophobia- Fear of going to school.
Dikephobia- Fear of justice.
Dinophobia- Fear of dizziness or whirlpools.
Diplophobia- Fear of double vision.
Dipsophobia- Fear of drinking.
Dishabiliophobia- Fear of undressing in front of someone.
Disposophobia- Fear of throwing stuff out. Hoarding.
Domatophobia- Fear of houses or being in a house.(Eicophobia, Oikophobia)
Doraphobia- Fear of fur or skins of animals.
Doxophobia- Fear of expressing opinions or of receiving praise.
Dromophobia- Fear of crossing streets.
Dutchphobia- Fear of the Dutch.
Dysmorphophobia- Fear of deformity.
Dystychiphobia- Fear of accidents.

E
Ecclesiophobia- Fear of church.
Ecophobia- Fear of home.
Eicophobia- Fear of home surroundings.(Domatophobia, Oikophobia)
Eisoptrophobia- Fear of mirrors or of seeing oneself in a mirror.
Electrophobia- Fear of electricity.
Eleutherophobia- Fear of freedom.
Elurophobia- Fear of cats. (Ailurophobia)
Emetophobia- Fear of vomiting.
Enetophobia- Fear of pins.
Enochlophobia- Fear of crowds.
Enosiophobia or Enissophobia- Fear of having committed an unpardonable sin or of criticism.
Entomophobia- Fear of insects.
Eosophobia- Fear of dawn or daylight.
Ephebiphobia- Fear of teenagers.
Epistaxiophobia- Fear of nosebleeds.
Epistemophobia- Fear of knowledge.
Equinophobia- Fear of horses.
Eremophobia- Fear of being oneself or of lonliness.
Ereuthrophobia- Fear of blushing.
Ergasiophobia- 1) Fear of work or functioning. 2) Surgeon’s fear of operating.
Ergophobia- Fear of work.
Erotophobia- Fear of sexual love or sexual questions.
Euphobia- Fear of hearing good news.
Eurotophobia- Fear of female genitalia.
Erythrophobia or Erytophobia or Ereuthophobia- 1) Fear of redlights. 2) Blushing. 3) Red.

F
Febriphobia or Fibriphobia or Fibriophobia- Fear of fever.
Felinophobia- Fear of cats. (Ailurophobia, Elurophobia, Galeophobia, Gatophobia)
Francophobia- Fear of France or French culture. (Gallophobia, Galiophobia)
Frigophobia- Fear of cold or cold things.(Cheimaphobia, Cheimatophobia, Psychrophobia)

G
Galeophobia or Gatophobia- Fear of cats.
Gallophobia or Galiophobia- Fear France or French culture. (Francophobia)
Gamophobia- Fear of marriage.
Geliophobia- Fear of laughter.
Gelotophobia- Fear of being laughed at.
Geniophobia- Fear of chins.
Genophobia- Fear of sex.
Genuphobia- Fear of knees.
Gephyrophobia or Gephydrophobia or Gephysrophobia- Fear of crossing bridges.
Germanophobia- Fear of Germany or German culture.
Gerascophobia- Fear of growing old.
Gerontophobia- Fear of old people or of growing old.
Geumaphobia or Geumophobia- Fear of taste.
Glossophobia- Fear of speaking in public or of trying to speak.
Gnosiophobia- Fear of knowledge.
Graphophobia- Fear of writing or handwriting.
Gymnophobia- Fear of nudity.
Gynephobia or Gynophobia- Fear of women.

H
Hadephobia- Fear of hell.
Hagiophobia- Fear of saints or holy things.
Hamartophobia- Fear of sinning.
Haphephobia or Haptephobia- Fear of being touched.
Harpaxophobia- Fear of being robbed.
Hedonophobia- Fear of feeling pleasure.
Heliophobia- Fear of the sun.
Hellenologophobia- Fear of Greek terms or complex scientific terminology.
Helminthophobia- Fear of being infested with worms.
Hemophobia or Hemaphobia or Hematophobia- Fear of blood.
Heresyphobia or Hereiophobia- Fear of challenges to official doctrine or of radical deviation.
Herpetophobia- Fear of reptiles or creepy, crawly things.
Heterophobia- Fear of the opposite sex. (Sexophobia)
Hexakosioihexekontahexaphobia- Fear of the number 666.
Hierophobia- Fear of priests or sacred things.
Hippophobia- Fear of horses.
Hippopotomonstrosesquipedaliophobia- Fear of long words.
Hobophobia- Fear of bums or beggars.
Hodophobia- Fear of road travel.
Hormephobia- Fear of shock.
Homichlophobia- Fear of fog.
Homilophobia- Fear of sermons.
Hominophobia- Fear of men.
Homophobia- Fear of sameness, monotony or of homosexuality or of becoming homosexual.
Hoplophobia- Fear of firearms.
Hydrargyophobia- Fear of mercurial medicines.
Hydrophobia- Fear of water or of rabies.
Hydrophobophobia- Fear of rabies.
Hyelophobia or Hyalophobia- Fear of glass.
Hygrophobia- Fear of liquids, dampness, or moisture.
Hylephobia- Fear of materialism or the fear of epilepsy.
Hylophobia- Fear of forests.
Hypengyophobia or Hypegiaphobia- Fear of responsibility.
Hypnophobia- Fear of sleep or of being hypnotized.
Hypsiphobia- Fear of height.

I
Iatrophobia- Fear of going to the doctor or of doctors.
Ichthyophobia- Fear of fish.
Ideophobia- Fear of ideas.
Illyngophobia- Fear of vertigo or feeling dizzy when looking down.
Iophobia- Fear of poison.
Insectophobia – Fear of insects.
Isolophobia- Fear of solitude, being alone.
Isopterophobia- Fear of termites, insects that eat wood.
Ithyphallophobia- Fear of seeing, thinking about or having an erect penis.

J
Japanophobia- Fear of Japanese.
Judeophobia- Fear of Jews.

K
Kainolophobia or Kainophobia- Fear of anything new, novelty.
Kakorrhaphiophobia- Fear of failure or defeat.
Katagelophobia- Fear of ridicule.
Kathisophobia- Fear of sitting down.
Katsaridaphobia- Fear of cockroaches.
Kenophobia- Fear of voids or empty spaces.
Keraunophobia or Ceraunophobia- Fear of thunder and lightning.(Astraphobia, Astrapophobia)
Kinetophobia or Kinesophobia- Fear of movement or motion.
Kleptophobia- Fear of stealing.
Koinoniphobia- Fear of rooms.
Kolpophobia- Fear of genitals, particularly female.
Kopophobia- Fear of fatigue.
Koniophobia- Fear of dust. (Amathophobia)
Kosmikophobia- Fear of cosmic phenomenon.
Kymophobia- Fear of waves. (Cymophobia)
Kynophobia- Fear of rabies.
Kyphophobia- Fear of stooping.

L
Lachanophobia- Fear of vegetables.
Laliophobia or Lalophobia- Fear of speaking.
Leprophobia or Lepraphobia- Fear of leprosy.
Leukophobia- Fear of the color white.
Levophobia- Fear of things to the left side of the body.
Ligyrophobia- Fear of loud noises.
Lilapsophobia- Fear of tornadoes and hurricanes.
Limnophobia- Fear of lakes.
Linonophobia- Fear of string.
Liticaphobia- Fear of lawsuits.
Lockiophobia- Fear of childbirth.
Logizomechanophobia- Fear of computers.
Logophobia- Fear of words.
Luiphobia- Fear of lues, syphillis.
Lutraphobia- Fear of otters.
Lygophobia- Fear of darkness.
Lyssophobia- Fear of rabies or of becoming mad.

M
Macrophobia- Fear of long waits.
Mageirocophobia- Fear of cooking.
Maieusiophobia- Fear of childbirth.
Malaxophobia- Fear of love play. (Sarmassophobia)
Maniaphobia- Fear of insanity.
Mastigophobia- Fear of punishment.
Mechanophobia- Fear of machines.
Medomalacuphobia- Fear of losing an erection.
Medorthophobia- Fear of an erect penis.
Megalophobia- Fear of large things.
Melissophobia- Fear of bees.
Melanophobia- Fear of the color black.
Melophobia- Fear or hatred of music.
Meningitophobia- Fear of brain disease.
Menophobia- Fear of menstruation.
Merinthophobia- Fear of being bound or tied up.
Metallophobia- Fear of metal.
Metathesiophobia- Fear of changes.
Meteorophobia- Fear of meteors.
Methyphobia- Fear of alcohol.
Metrophobia- Fear or hatred of poetry.
Microbiophobia- Fear of microbes. (Bacillophobia)
Microphobia- Fear of small things.
Misophobia or Mysophobia- Fear of being contaminated with dirt or germs.
Mnemophobia- Fear of memories.
Molysmophobia or Molysomophobia- Fear of dirt or contamination.
Monophobia- Fear of solitude or being alone.
Monopathophobia- Fear of definite disease.
Motorphobia- Fear of automobiles.
Mottephobia- Fear of moths.
Musophobia or Muriphobia- Fear of mice.
Mycophobia- Fear or aversion to mushrooms.
Mycrophobia- Fear of small things.
Myctophobia- Fear of darkness.
Myrmecophobia- Fear of ants.
Mythophobia- Fear of myths or stories or false statements.
Myxophobia- Fear of slime. (Blennophobia)

N
Nebulaphobia- Fear of fog. (Homichlophobia)
Necrophobia- Fear of death or dead things.
Nelophobia- Fear of glass.
Neopharmaphobia- Fear of new drugs.
Neophobia- Fear of anything new.
Nephophobia- Fear of clouds.
Noctiphobia- Fear of the night.
Nomatophobia- Fear of names.
Nomophobia- Fear of being out of mobile phone contact
Nosocomephobia- Fear of hospitals.
Nosophobia or Nosemaphobia- Fear of becoming ill.
Nostophobia- Fear of returning home.
Novercaphobia- Fear of your step-mother.
Nucleomituphobia- Fear of nuclear weapons.
Nudophobia- Fear of nudity.
Numerophobia- Fear of numbers.
Nyctohylophobia- Fear of dark wooded areas or of forests at night
Nyctophobia- Fear of the dark or of night.

O
Obesophobia- Fear of gaining weight.(Pocrescophobia)
Ochlophobia- Fear of crowds or mobs.
Ochophobia- Fear of vehicles.
Octophobia – Fear of the figure 8.
Odontophobia- Fear of teeth or dental surgery.
Odynophobia or Odynephobia- Fear of pain. (Algophobia)
Oenophobia- Fear of wines.
Oikophobia- Fear of home surroundings, house.(Domatophobia, Eicophobia)
Olfactophobia- Fear of smells.
Ombrophobia- Fear of rain or of being rained on.
Ommetaphobia or Ommatophobia- Fear of eyes.
Omphalophobia- Fear of belly buttons.
Oneirophobia- Fear of dreams.
Oneirogmophobia- Fear of wet dreams.
Onomatophobia- Fear of hearing a certain word or of names.
Ophidiophobia- Fear of snakes. (Snakephobia)
Ophthalmophobia- Fear of being stared at.
Opiophobia- Fear medical doctors experience of prescribing needed pain medications for patients.
Optophobia- Fear of opening one’s eyes.
Ornithophobia- Fear of birds.
Orthophobia- Fear of property.
Osmophobia or Osphresiophobia- Fear of smells or odors.
Ostraconophobia- Fear of shellfish.
Ouranophobia or Uranophobia- Fear of heaven

P
Pagophobia- Fear of ice or frost.
Panthophobia- Fear of suffering and disease.
Panophobia or Pantophobia- Fear of everything.
Papaphobia- Fear of the Pope.
Papyrophobia- Fear of paper.
Paralipophobia- Fear of neglecting duty or responsibility.
Paraphobia- Fear of sexual perversion.
Parasitophobia- Fear of parasites.
Paraskavedekatriaphobia- Fear of Friday the 13th.
Parthenophobia- Fear of virgins or young girls.
Pathophobia- Fear of disease.
Patroiophobia- Fear of heredity.
Parturiphobia- Fear of childbirth.
Peccatophobia- Fear of sinning or imaginary crimes.
Pediculophobia- Fear of lice.
Pediophobia- Fear of dolls.
Pedophobia- Fear of children.
Peladophobia- Fear of bald people.
Pellagrophobia- Fear of pellagra.
Peniaphobia- Fear of poverty.
Pentheraphobia- Fear of mother-in-law. (Novercaphobia)
Phagophobia- Fear of swallowing or of eating or of being eaten.
Phalacrophobia- Fear of becoming bald.
Phallophobia- Fear of a penis, esp erect.
Pharmacophobia- Fear of taking medicine.
Phasmophobia- Fear of ghosts.
Phengophobia- Fear of daylight or sunshine.
Philemaphobia or Philematophobia- Fear of kissing.
Philophobia- Fear of falling in love or being in love.
Philosophobia- Fear of philosophy.
Phobophobia- Fear of phobias.
Photoaugliaphobia- Fear of glaring lights.
Photophobia- Fear of light.
Phonophobia- Fear of noises or voices or one’s own voice; of telephones.
Phronemophobia- Fear of thinking.
Phthiriophobia- Fear of lice. (Pediculophobia)
Phthisiophobia- Fear of tuberculosis.
Placophobia- Fear of tombstones.
Plutophobia- Fear of wealth.
Pluviophobia- Fear of rain or of being rained on.
Pneumatiphobia- Fear of spirits.
Pnigophobia or Pnigerophobia- Fear of choking of being smothered.
Pocrescophobia- Fear of gaining weight. (Obesophobia)
Pogonophobia- Fear of beards.
Poliosophobia- Fear of contracting poliomyelitis.
Politicophobia- Fear or abnormal dislike of politicians.
Polyphobia- Fear of many things.
Poinephobia- Fear of punishment.
Ponophobia- Fear of overworking or of pain.
Porphyrophobia- Fear of the color purple.
Potamophobia- Fear of rivers or running water.
Potophobia- Fear of alcohol.
Pharmacophobia- Fear of drugs.
Proctophobia- Fear of rectums.
Prosophobia- Fear of progress.
Psellismophobia- Fear of stuttering.
Psychophobia- Fear of mind.
Psychrophobia- Fear of cold.
Pteromerhanophobia- Fear of flying.
Pteronophobia- Fear of being tickled by feathers.
Pupaphobia – Fear of puppets.
Pyrexiophobia- Fear of Fever.
Pyrophobia- Fear of fire.

R
Radiophobia- Fear of radiation, x-rays.
Ranidaphobia- Fear of frogs.
Rectophobia- Fear of rectum or rectal diseases.
Rhabdophobia- Fear of being severely punished or beaten by a rod, or of being severely criticized. Also fear of magic.(wand)
Rhypophobia- Fear of defecation.
Rhytiphobia- Fear of getting wrinkles.
Rupophobia- Fear of dirt.
Russophobia- Fear of Russians

S
Samhainophobia: Fear of Halloween.
Sarmassophobia- Fear of love play. (Malaxophobia)
Satanophobia- Fear of Satan.
Scabiophobia- Fear of scabies.
Scatophobia- Fear of fecal matter.
Scelerophibia- Fear of bad men, burglars.
Sciophobia Sciaphobia- Fear of shadows.
Scoleciphobia- Fear of worms.
Scolionophobia- Fear of school.
Scopophobia or Scoptophobia- Fear of being seen or stared at.
Scotomaphobia- Fear of blindness in visual field.
Scotophobia- Fear of darkness. (Achluophobia)
Scriptophobia- Fear of writing in public.
Selachophobia- Fear of sharks.
Selaphobia- Fear of light flashes.
Selenophobia- Fear of the moon.
Seplophobia- Fear of decaying matter.
Sesquipedalophobia- Fear of long words.
Sexophobia- Fear of the opposite sex. (Heterophobia)
Siderodromophobia- Fear of trains, railroads or train travel.
Siderophobia- Fear of stars.
Sinistrophobia- Fear of things to the left or left-handed.
Sinophobia- Fear of Chinese, Chinese culture.
Sitophobia or Sitiophobia- Fear of food or eating. (Cibophobia)
Snakephobia- Fear of snakes. (Ophidiophobia)
Soceraphobia- Fear of parents-in-law.
Social Phobia- Fear of being evaluated negatively in social situations.
Sociophobia- Fear of society or people in general.
Somniphobia- Fear of sleep.
Sophophobia- Fear of learning.
Soteriophobia – Fear of dependence on others.
Spacephobia- Fear of outer space.
Spectrophobia- Fear of specters or ghosts.
Spermatophobia or Spermophobia- Fear of germs.
Spheksophobia- Fear of wasps.
Stasibasiphobia or Stasiphobia- Fear of standing or walking. (Ambulophobia)
Staurophobia- Fear of crosses or the crucifix.
Stenophobia- Fear of narrow things or places.
Stygiophobia or Stigiophobia- Fear of hell.
Suriphobia- Fear of mice.
Symbolophobia- Fear of symbolism.
Symmetrophobia- Fear of symmetry.
Syngenesophobia- Fear of relatives.
Syphilophobia- Fear of syphilis.

T
Tachophobia- Fear of speed.
Taeniophobia or Teniophobia- Fear of tapeworms.
Taphephobia Taphophobia- Fear of being buried alive or of cemeteries.
Tapinophobia- Fear of being contagious.
Taurophobia- Fear of bulls.
Technophobia- Fear of technology.
Teleophobia- 1) Fear of definite plans. 2) Religious ceremony.
Telephonophobia- Fear of telephones.
Teratophobia- Fear of bearing a deformed child or fear of monsters or deformed people.
Testophobia- Fear of taking tests.
Tetanophobia- Fear of lockjaw, tetanus.
Teutophobia- Fear of German or German things.
Textophobia- Fear of certain fabrics.
Thaasophobia- Fear of sitting.
Thalassophobia- Fear of the sea.
Thanatophobia or Thantophobia- Fear of death or dying.
Theatrophobia- Fear of theatres.
Theologicophobia- Fear of theology.
Theophobia- Fear of gods or religion.
Thermophobia- Fear of heat.
Tocophobia- Fear of pregnancy or childbirth.
Tomophobia- Fear of surgical operations.
Tonitrophobia- Fear of thunder.
Topophobia- Fear of certain places or situations, such as stage fright.
Toxiphobia or Toxophobia or Toxicophobia- Fear of poison or of being accidently poisoned.
Traumatophobia- Fear of injury.
Tremophobia- Fear of trembling.
Trichinophobia- Fear of trichinosis.
Trichopathophobia or Trichophobia- Fear of hair. (Chaetophobia, Hypertrichophobia)
Triskaidekaphobia- Fear of the number 13.
Tropophobia- Fear of moving or making changes.
Trypanophobia- Fear of injections.
Tuberculophobia- Fear of tuberculosis.
Tyrannophobia- Fear of tyrants.

U
Uranophobia or Ouranophobia- Fear of heaven.
Urophobia- Fear of urine or urinating.

V
Vaccinophobia- Fear of vaccination.
Venustraphobia- Fear of beautiful women.
Verbophobia- Fear of words.
Verminophobia- Fear of germs.
Vestiphobia- Fear of clothing.
Virginitiphobia- Fear of rape.
Vitricophobia- Fear of step-father.

W
Walloonphobia- Fear of the Walloons.
Wiccaphobia: Fear of witches and witchcraft.

X
Xanthophobia- Fear of the color yellow or the word yellow.
Xenoglossophobia- Fear of foreign languages.
Xenophobia- Fear of strangers or foreigners.
Xerophobia- Fear of dryness.
Xylophobia- 1) Fear of wooden objects. 2) Forests.
Xyrophobia-Fear of razors.

Z
Zelophobia- Fear of jealousy.
Zeusophobia- Fear of God or gods.
Zemmiphobia- Fear of the great mole rat.
Zoophobia- Fear of animals.

Are You Re-Living Groundhog Day?

Are You Re-Living Groundhog Day?

If you woke up today feeling like it was yesterday and you woke up yesterday feeling like it was the day before yesterday, chances are you are re-living Groundhog Day  . . .

 

Phil: What would you do if you were stuck in one place and every day was exactly the same, and nothing that you did mattered?
Ralph: That about sums it up for me.

 

This quote was from the 1993 Bill Murray movie, Groundhog Day. Murray plays the role of arrogant weatherman Phil Connors who reluctantly go to Punxsutawney, Philadelphia to cover the annually celebrated Groundhog Day. An unforeseeable blizzard forced Phil to stay the night. What he did not anticipate was waking up the next morning to re-live Groundhog Day over and over and over again.

 

According to Wikipedia, the popularity of the movie rendered the phrase “Groundhog Day” as a common reference to a continually occurring unpleasant situation.

 

 

Re-living Groundhog Day

I wonder if you ever get this feeling I get from time to time – that you are re-living the same day over and over and over again. There are times that my life take a strange turn in that direction.

 

Well, to echo Ralph’s sentiment, there are days when it about “sums it up for me” too. All of us at one point or another, will have our Groundhog Day moments.

 

Ever been in a work situation that you don’t like but the situation kept repeating itself? You hate it but you seem to be stuck. Feel trapped in a mundane repetitive job situation? Check. Want to pack your bags and go live and work someplace else but can’t seem to move elsewhere? Want to put an end to a relationship but don’t know how (or can’t)? Check. 

 

I have pondered these questions at each phase in my life. In a metaphorical sense, it seem like we are a game pieces in a computer game. Inside the game, we are required to pass certain “tests” to progress to the next level. And we have stay at the same level repeating the same play sequences over and over again until we do.

 

On the bigger scheme of things, life and death seemed that way too. We are trapped in this body, on this planet and in this dimension until we pass certain “tests”. In death, we progress to another dimension or a higher level. The Chinese used the word “guoshen” to describe death which in literal sense means “passing of the body” or that the soul had moved on to another form or entity.

 

 

Neural Pathways

I have had clients who repeatedly face similar work situations no matter how many time they job hopped. Strange as it may seem, each work situation consist of the same troubling elements. The “office line-up” includes bitchy co-workers, boss from hell, apple polisher and the backstabber. 

 

Does this vicious repetitive loop exist in the subconscious mind?

 

Your subconscious mind is nothing but a series of neural pathways formed by past conditioning and beliefs. The subconscious mind does not discriminate between right-wrong or good-bad. Everything you consciously feed it, it accepts and thus a strong neural pathway is created.

 

 

Everything is Created Twice

Your life event begins as a mental creation before its manifestation in physical form. If you are re-living your version of Groundhog Day, it can only mean you brain is still running on the old neural pathway which constantly reinforces your current reality. Sound familiar?

 

Everything that is manifested in your life begins at mental level before becoming a reality. To change your reality, you must begin by breaking the old habit patterns that you no longer need or want.

 

Dissociate. Disengage. Disconnect from old unwanted habit patterns.

 

Easier said than done. Because the neural pathway is so used to the old negative pattern, it will go into a withdrawal mode. Think abstinence from your favorite food or the absence of nicotine in a smoker trying to quit smoking.

 

Try telling your subconscious a different story and see the loop eventually get replaced by a whole new and different experience.

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