Are You Re-Living Groundhog Day?

Are You Re-Living Groundhog Day?

If you woke up today feeling like it was yesterday and you woke up yesterday feeling like it was the day before yesterday, chances are you are re-living Groundhog Day  . . .


Phil: What would you do if you were stuck in one place and every day was exactly the same, and nothing that you did mattered?
Ralph: That about sums it up for me.


This quote was from the 1993 Bill Murray movie, Groundhog Day. Murray plays the role of arrogant weatherman Phil Connors who reluctantly go to Punxsutawney, Philadelphia to cover the annually celebrated Groundhog Day. An unforeseeable blizzard forced Phil to stay the night. What he did not anticipate was waking up the next morning to re-live Groundhog Day over and over and over again.


According to Wikipedia, the popularity of the movie rendered the phrase “Groundhog Day” as a common reference to a continually occurring unpleasant situation.



Re-living Groundhog Day

I wonder if you ever get this feeling I get from time to time – that you are re-living the same day over and over and over again. There are times that my life take a strange turn in that direction.


Well, to echo Ralph’s sentiment, there are days when it about “sums it up for me” too. All of us at one point or another, will have our Groundhog Day moments.


Ever been in a work situation that you don’t like but the situation kept repeating itself? You hate it but you seem to be stuck. Feel trapped in a mundane repetitive job situation? Check. Want to pack your bags and go live and work someplace else but can’t seem to move elsewhere? Want to put an end to a relationship but don’t know how (or can’t)? Check. 


I have pondered these questions at each phase in my life. In a metaphorical sense, it seem like we are a game pieces in a computer game. Inside the game, we are required to pass certain “tests” to progress to the next level. And we have stay at the same level repeating the same play sequences over and over again until we do.


On the bigger scheme of things, life and death seemed that way too. We are trapped in this body, on this planet and in this dimension until we pass certain “tests”. In death, we progress to another dimension or a higher level. The Chinese used the word “guoshen” to describe death which in literal sense means “passing of the body” or that the soul had moved on to another form or entity.



Neural Pathways

I have had clients who repeatedly face similar work situations no matter how many time they job hopped. Strange as it may seem, each work situation consist of the same troubling elements. The “office line-up” includes bitchy co-workers, boss from hell, apple polisher and the backstabber. 


Does this vicious repetitive loop exist in the subconscious mind?


Your subconscious mind is nothing but a series of neural pathways formed by past conditioning and beliefs. The subconscious mind does not discriminate between right-wrong or good-bad. Everything you consciously feed it, it accepts and thus a strong neural pathway is created.



Everything is Created Twice

Your life event begins as a mental creation before its manifestation in physical form. If you are re-living your version of Groundhog Day, it can only mean you brain is still running on the old neural pathway which constantly reinforces your current reality. Sound familiar?


Everything that is manifested in your life begins at mental level before becoming a reality. To change your reality, you must begin by breaking the old habit patterns that you no longer need or want.


Dissociate. Disengage. Disconnect from old unwanted habit patterns.


Easier said than done. Because the neural pathway is so used to the old negative pattern, it will go into a withdrawal mode. Think abstinence from your favorite food or the absence of nicotine in a smoker trying to quit smoking.


Try telling your subconscious a different story and see the loop eventually get replaced by a whole new and different experience.

Job Security Is a Complete Myth – Re-Invent Yourself Now

Job Security Is a Complete Myth – Re-Invent Yourself Now

Job security is dead.


According to business psychologists Timothy Butler and James Waldroop, authors of Discovering Your Career in Business (Addison-Wesley, 1997), the company you work for no longer dictate the moves you made. 


Fast forward to 2014, the author of The Future of Work: Attract New Talent, Build Better Leaders, and Create a Competitive Organization, Jacob Morgan posits that “Job security is a complete myth, as is long-term employment. Companies lay off employees in droves…by the thousands!”


In the last millennium, the work cycle is similar to a tree – join a company, grow roots, and stay put. Today, the tree has been replaced by surfer. You are always on the move, falling into the water again and again but getting back up to catch that next wave.


Today, the job security/loyalty scale is balanced by the question of “who is responsible for your career?” Before the turn of the century, a social contract went along with a job. And organizations accepted some form of responsibility or another for their staff.


The validity of a contract is questionable today and YOU are responsible for shaping your own career within an organization. (Or to put it more appropriately – between organizations).



Work Redefined

Butler and Waldroop describes the evolution of work using three words that tend to be used interchangeably – job, career and vocation.


Job is the most specific and immediate of the three: your job designation, employer and job specification for the next 6 months or so. In this post-information economy, describing what your job will be beyond 12-18 months is moving into the realm of uncertainty.


The word career is the one most commonly heard today. Webster’s Dictionary defined it as ‘a swift course’, ‘one’s progress through life’ and ‘a profession or occupation’. Aptly enough, it’s intransitive verb definition is ‘to rush wildly’. Like most of us in our hurry to accumulate wealth just jumped into what we think will become our career.  


You can have different careers at different points in your life. You may aspire or have a career as an engineer or banker but it isn’t the same as your calling.



Making A Difference

Which brings us to the third and final definition of work – vocation. The word vocation is derived from the Latin word “vocare”, which means “to call”. Doing things in life that makes a difference to you. Something you can look back upon in later years to see the impact you have made on the world.


A calling is something you have to listen for. It won’t come as a writing on the wall.

the death of job security

To further challenge your paradigm – look closely to the word career. The word originated from the Latin word for cart and the Middle French word for race track. If you have come across financial guru Robert Kiyosaki’s Cashflow Game, you will know what that means – going round and round real fast inside a hamster wheel – but NOT getting anywhere.

The Emotional Side of Wealth

The Emotional Side of Wealth

Wealth is about facts, figures and money, right?


No, that is only half the equation. 


Wealth has an element of emotion in it. In essence, the management of wealth is about the management of self.


You are in control. You are no longer in control only if you adopt a ‘victim’ mentality whereby you let circumstances (in this case, finances) take control. That is why casinos make money year in year out. They are banking on one fundamental human trait – greed.


Financial institutions and credit cards do the same. They know most of us cannot resist the temptation to spend. Advertisers employ psychological tricks to get consumers to part with their money.


And they do it all the time. As long as they are able to appeal to your emotions.


“Logic opens the mind but emotion opens the wallet”?

Maintaining Wealth

The next time you make a purchase ask yourself whether the buying decision was based on logic or feelings. That’s how the word ‘impulse buying’ comes about. Of course, it comes hand in hand with the word ‘buyer’s remorse’.

Maintaining Wealth

My philosophy on maintaining wealth hinges on a much simpler model than the real financial consultants out there who will dazzle you with facts and figures. Let’s examine a few basic concepts:


  • If your assets override your liabilities, you are ahead of the curve. (eg. If each month you are only spending 2000 while earning 3000, you are technically financially free (with the assumption that your lifestyle remains constant and the inflation rate is at 0 %.). 
  • Do you keep track of your expenses?
  • Do you have a clearly defined set of financial goals? First of all, you need to determine your financial health. If you do not know where you are now (financially), how are you going to determine where you will be going?
  • How can you have the lifestyle you want without hurting your finances and not sidetrack you from achieving your financial goals? Get creative with your spending, you will be surprise how much you can save and how far you can stretch your money.

What is the True Meaning of Wealth?

What is the True Meaning of Wealth?

The word wealth is derived from the old English word “weal”, which meant “well-being” or “welfare“. Wealth exists in many forms. The most common of which is economic abundance. In the everyday sense, it is usually referred to as money. I would like to use the word prosperity because money and wealth in its truest sense must ultimately translate into prosperity. But what really is the true meaning of wealth?


Wealth Is A Mind Game

In order to grasp the concept of prosperity, you must first accept that prosperity is first and foremost a mind game. It is a consciousness, a set of invisible beliefs that you carry with you. Like self-image, this set of beliefs may have been implanted in you from a very early age. In Real Magic: Creating Miracles in Everyday Life, Dr. Wayne Dyer shares a beautiful illustration of this concept:


A downtrodden and ragged man approached the boss of a construction company and said, “I need work.”


“Fine, take that large boulder over there and roll it up and down the hill. If you need work, that will fulfill your need” the boss replied. The man said, “You don’t understand, what I really need is money.”


The boss replied, “Ahh, if it is money that you need, here’s fifty bucks. But you can’t spend it.” The man is now in a very perplexed state. “What I really need is food and clothing, not just money.”


“If this is what you really need, spend the money on food and clothing but don’t eat the food and don’t wear the clothing.”


The man finally saw what he really needed, security, peace and inner satisfaction. In actual fact, what the man needed is already in his possession. All he needed to do was ‘go within’ and create it in his mind.



The True Meaning of Wealth

A person trained in prosperity consciousness will exercise caution on his thoughts of prosperity. The mind moves in the direction of its most dominant thoughts. Once you develop this inner belief and use it to manifest the desires of your physical reality, then you will be able to enjoy wealth in its true sense.


Imagine if we can move away from a mental state of scarcity where thoughts are all about lack.


“I don’t have enough money”


“There is not enough to go around”


“Grab it before someone else does”


When you operate from this state of mind, you will NEVER experience real prosperity. YOU make the choices. Just because all those around you choose to be in competition with each other does not mean you have to conform to that behavior.


The True Meaning of Wealth: Expecting Abundance

Money is dependent upon your attitude towards it. Treat it like a master and it will exercise dominance over you. Treat it like a servant and it will serve you well. You must constantly remind yourself of the relationship between your thoughts and money.


Expect abundance everyday. Whether its health, wealth, economic well being, relationships or spirituality, it is all within you. You just need to put your mind to it. The true meaning of wealth is simply what you associate money with. 

What Matters Most – The Power of Connecting to Your Inner Being

What Matters Most – The Power of Connecting to Your Inner Being

What are you passionate about? Do you have something that drives your life or have you been driven by life and taken for a ride? What matters most to you?


DO you stand for something? What are your life’s priorities?


How do you define your own uniqueness? What are the gifts and talents that you possess? How can you use your gifts to enhance your life and contribute to your fellow humans?


We get so depleted most of the time to have a moment to think of these questions. Yet these questions do come, oftentimes too late. They come as a trigger, often pulled by the hands of fate on your personal life. Death in the family. Divorce. Downsized.


There are lot of talks and discussions on financial freedom in recent years. Retire young retire rich. How much is enough? Is money the shortest route to freedom? How do you define your financial freedom? A million in the bank? 5 million? What about 20?


By the way, the word ‘retire’ according to the definition in Webster’s Dictionary is

  1.  Withdraw to a secluded place.
  2.  To give up one’s work.
  3.  The act of moving back or to retreat.
  4.  To go to bed.


What Matters Most

Is that what you want? Most people do see retirement as giving up one’s vocation. But then again, if you are engage in a work of passion, then your labor of love will not be considered as work or a task but rather something that you will genuinely enjoy doing. Turn your vocation into a vacation. Forever. Would the word ‘retire’ become redundant then?


You’ll be surprised how embracing your dreams can be an ecstatically liberating experience. At the moment of your decision to embrace your dreams and the essence of your being, the universe moves with you. what matters most


Eventually, your renewed outlook of life and an instilled sense of purpose will make way for a new spending habit and the discovery that you actually have sufficient to live on. And thrive upon.

Connect to Your Inner Being

If you can connect to your inner being – without the influence of your peers, parents or the media – you will be able to unleash from deep within, a person of caliber, productivity and creativity that you have never dreamed possible.


What are the governing values that will move your life, unerring, unperturbed in the face of violent storm and worldly turmoil?


Align your values, your life’s mission, your passion and core beliefs and you will have a fulfilled life of living your dreams and thriving without struggle. You will be able to enter a ‘flow state’ where you are fully absorbed in activity during which you lose sense of time and have feelings of great satisfaction.


This notion of is the brainchild of Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, a professor and former chairman of the Department of Psychology at the University of Chicago who has devoted his life’s work to the study of what makes people truly happy, satisfied and fulfilled.   To enter the ‘flow’ state, all you need is just BE. Be in the moment. Let the next moment sort itself out.


Let the past be a learning lesson. Do not dwell on it.

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